Let’s talk about the Fearful/Anxious Attachment Style. This one is where an individual loves to be intimate with others (transparent and vulnerable) but is so afraid of being shamed or rejected when they open up. Background: Growing up in an environment where emotions were very black and white; positive emotions…

A long time ago, I went through a difficult breakup. Emotional pain is real, y’all! 🤨 It feels like you are dying, but death doesn’t come. You just want relief—it’s crazy. Any-hoo… During that period, 1 Peter 5:10 was a lifesaver for me:“And the God of all grace, who called…

A temperament is that part of your personality that interacts with information in the world. You might also call it your ‘world view’. It is the way you think, the way you feel and the way you behave. Your thoughts are going to influence how you feel, and then how…

Long-term relationships are beautiful, and can be an adventure for both parties. However, they can also harbour hidden resentments and bitterness. These negative emotions can erode the foundation of love and connection, and can be break what was once a happy relationship. Resentment often arises when partners feel neglected or…

Conflict is an unavoidable part of any relationship. The presence of conflict is not what threatens a relationship per se, rather how the conflict is managed. When disagreements are approached with the right tools, then they can be turned into opportunities for both partners to experience growth and a deeper…

In my line of work as a marriage and family therapist, one of the things that I often witness is couples is the struggle to communicate effectively. Being able to communicate is important in building a relationship, and a sure way to reduce incidents of miscommunication and conflict. Active listening…

 It was one of those laid-back Wednesday evenings. I was unwinding at home with a mug of hot soup, after a long day. Wednesdays tend to be quite busy for me, having live radio shows and therapy sessions all in one day. My phone lit up with a notification. It…

We often hear about the four horsemen of the apocalypse. But have you heard about ‘The Four Horsemen of Relationships’? These are intricate dynamics of relationships, which specifically focus on the notorious ‘Four Horsemen’. These four destructive patterns have the potential to wreak havoc on even the most seemingly loving…

Happy new year, dear readers! We are grateful for another year, a fresh start filled with many possibilities. Have you heard of ‘Relational trauma’? This is a term describes the psychological and emotional effects of experiencing harm or betrayal within a close relationship. It could also be as a result…

As Jessy walked into my office, she expressed a mix of anxiety and anticipation. At the age of 32, she was finally addressing the deep-seated childhood trauma that had haunted her for as long as she could remember. She had carried these wounds like a heavy cloak, their weight bearing…

Dear younger me…..(pause) What do I tell her? What do I tell the bright-eyed girl back in the village, whose unforgiving life experiences denied her a chance to truly enjoy her childhood? What do I tell that songbird whose joy was drained by crippling anxiety at every dusk? Dear younger…

The Silent Struggle: Unveiling the Importance of Mental Health for Men. In a world where stoicism and resilience are often glorified, men face unique challenges when it comes to their mental health. Society’s expectations, coupled with their own internalized pressures, can lead to a silent struggle that often goes unnoticed.…